The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson (What I've Learned)


Well, this could've been the most talked-about book in 2018! It's still quite rare to see people read it in Malaysia, hence they were not in the more common bookstores like Popular or Book Xcess (maybe they think it's too vulgar lol). I got this copy from Kinokuniya at the price of RM79.90 *ouch*, but since I know I'm going to keep them, I bought it despite the price.

Instead of giving this book a rank (I'll do it at the end), I want to list down some of the things I've learned through this book.

1. Action creates motivation
I'll be writing on a post on how to create motivation next month. *brewing* The biggest thing I've learned from the end of last year is that there's no such thing as motivation. YOU CREATE MOTIVATION. Action first, then the motivation will come by. For instance, writing this post, posting it and receiving feedback from you guys creates motivation for me to keep producing more!

2. You don't need the AHA moment
The biggest take away from this book is that there will never be a right time. Don't wait until you are smarter, richer or whatever to start your dream or to learn something. In this era of technology you can learn within a click on the finger. You wanna make videos? I'm sure you have a phone. Need a gadget to start you business/passion? Start saving money to achieve them!

3. Improvements come from failures
"... the magnitude of your success is based on how many times you've failed at something."
It hits me hard because I am always comparing myself with other people's success. But what flipped me over is, I should compare my failure to their failure. I am not failing enough. I am not experimenting or doing enough, that's why I am not learning enough, hence, not successful yet. Also, by failing, it does not put a full-stop to your journey to your success. Failing once on this blog does not mean I cannot succeed here, it only means I can grow and learn and fail better next time ;)

4. "Do Something" Principle
"If you're stuck on a problem, don't sit there and think about it; just start working on it.... the simple act of working on it will eventually cause the right ideas to show up in your head." This ties back to my first point, just take actions. Many times, I have all these 'wonderful' ideas in my head, but I don't act upon it. What's the point? So many times when I encounter problems, I dodge it as long as I can. But really, it only cause morrreeee streesssss. There will never be the best solution/best way, but you can always the right ways/ideas when you take the first step.

5. Why I'm procrastinating
"The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it."
So many times I've passed on certain opportunities because I was afraid that I couldn't handle it. For example, I've been procrastinating on revamping my blog, because I was afraid that I couldn't live up to my set of expectations to be a great blogger. It challenges my ideal, hence I procrastinated. I was so afraid of the labels being "lame blogger", "blogger wana-be", "uninspiring" or "unprofessional", hence I rather not start this journey. This bring us to the next point...

6. Never know who you are
I always label myself as a dancer or a counselling student. But really, is that it? Sometimes it sets a strict expectation towards myself that I don't even realize. In the year of 2018, I expanded myself as a marketer, producer or even, not I finally can say, a creative blogger (in a much more confident way). I'm so excited to see what, and who I can become in the future years.

So... here's how I'll rate the book overall:

Rate: 8/10

It was a very easy to read book because I easily got so caught up with the way he writes it in a light-hearted way. I was flipping through it so fast, getting a-ha moments here and there throughout. It's easy to understand, and I would definitely re-read this book. However, towards the end I was reading it chunk by chunk so sometimes I don't follow the book throughout (hence I'm looking forward to re-read this). Overall, this is something I'll keep in the shelf, and pull it out whenever I need a reminder of what should I give a fuck about.

Oh, and, send me some book recommendations for the year 2019!

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