V-series: Single vs In-relationship

2.12.2018


So, I did the V-series previously, and many of you have dm-ed me saying how it resonated to you.


I'll start this year's by discussing what I learned being single vs in-relationship. 


SINGLE
I've been single for two years since the last breakup. It was bad. It's probably the most difficult time because I definitely did not see that coming. 

Before talking about being single, I think it is important to also discuss about accepting the loss. First year was horrible, I was drown in work, getting busy and just tried my best to suppress whatever I'm feeling.

What I'll tell myself now is: It's ok. It really is ok to feel bad and shitty and horrible. It is ok to take your time in this journey. But get up and show up, you are more than this relationship. Don't let this relationship define you. 
You are so much more than that. 
You are your values, you are your family, you are your friends and you are your dreams. 

So, it's heart breaking to not be in someone else's life, just remember you have more than that. 



In-relationship
To be honest, it was equally as hard to start a relationship when you let your past on bug you all the time. The thing I remind myself is, this is not the past, don't let the past haunt you.
 I love Joe, that's why I'm more than aware when the past starts creeping in. It's just not fair for this guy that I am dating now. 

When they say, you only learn when you are in a relationship, it is true. 
Start learning about this person you are dating, NOT assuming that he/she will be like the previous one. 

Communication. It's key. This is such a difficult thing for me to learn, but somehow, talk about things that matters. 
Spend quality time. 
More importantly, respecting each other for who they are. 




That's it for today. Any other topics you want me to talk about? I'll be more than happy to hear your thoughts. Have a great day!




2 comments

  1. If you want to start a relationship or to meet with new people then you should try online dating. You may think that it’s not the best option, but stop being lonely. This online video chat is a pretty safe place. Btw, you don’t have to share your personal information and worry about fake photos.

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